3 Things You Don’t Know About #metoo

“Men make the moral code and they expect women to accept it. They have decided that it is entirely right and proper for men to fight for their liberties and their rights, but that it is not right and proper for women to fight for theirs.”

Emmeline Pankhurst

I often wonder what compels my compulsion. The compulsion to watch shows and scenes placing my mind back at the scene of the crime. It’s a compulsion to be certain and in some ways, a very sick and twisted one. Many times, I force myself to relive my own sexual assaults – yes that’s plural as it has happened to me more than once during my lifetime – watching and discussing things I know will take me back to those moments.

Some of these discussions are frustrating. Others are debilitating. While still more are enlightening, not only for me many times but for those with which I have those discussions. Apparently, I’ve had those discussions a lot lately and I have come to some interesting conclusions in regard to assault as well as the #metoo movement as a whole. Continue reading “3 Things You Don’t Know About #metoo”



No this isn’t a call to arms. It isn’t a way to shame anyone or make them feel guilty. It is what it is. Some call it service. Some call it assisting the less fortunate. But it all boils down to one simple word:


As an advocate, I find a lot of people get that idea mixed up with volunteer. Don’t get me wrong, I do both. But sometimes, when I am attempting to get my kids involved in volunteering, I find it difficult to motivate them. To kids, volunteering sounds like work. And let’s face it, some volunteering is work.

We all know service is important and we all know we need to give back. It makes you feel good. It builds community. It creates a sense of belonging. It bridges gaps that other actions and programs are unable to bridge.

Boring service is sometimes necessary. None of us likes that stuff. The boring stuff is not for your kids. Continue reading “Volunteerism”

Marbles I Lost

Marbles – the term is multi-faceted. And it is involved in a lot of metaphors which makes it more interesting,

There is the game of marbles, played mostly by children. A challenge of strategy and skill. And if you don’t play or no longer play, you can collect these cute little spheres for fun or display. Some of which are quite interesting, pretty or cool.

Then there are metaphors, phrases –

You have no marbles! This means balls or courage. You have no the courage or bravery to do as you probably need to.

You’ve lost your marbles. Far from the previous incarnation, it means you’ve lost your mind. You don’t remember properly. The memory of what we are speaking is lost. Continue reading “Marbles I Lost”