3 Things You Don’t Know About #metoo

“Men make the moral code and they expect women to accept it. They have decided that it is entirely right and proper for men to fight for their liberties and their rights, but that it is not right and proper for women to fight for theirs.”

Emmeline Pankhurst

I often wonder what compels my compulsion. The compulsion to watch shows and scenes placing my mind back at the scene of the crime. It’s a compulsion to be certain and in some ways, a very sick and twisted one. Many times, I force myself to relive my own sexual assaults – yes that’s plural as it has happened to me more than once during my lifetime – watching and discussing things I know will take me back to those moments.

Some of these discussions are frustrating. Others are debilitating. While still more are enlightening, not only for me many times but for those with which I have those discussions. Apparently, I’ve had those discussions a lot lately and I have come to some interesting conclusions in regard to assault as well as the #metoo movement as a whole. Continue reading “3 Things You Don’t Know About #metoo”

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5 Things I Learned about Sexuality from Watching One Movie

One movie can say a lot when it comes to sexuality and since this one was a teen flick, what it’s telling me worries me.

The Movie Itself

I was watching a movie the other day, perhaps you know it – Easy A. It’s an interesting study in sex education, sexuality, and rape culture. Lately, because I guess this is something I feel driven to share when I watch a movie like this, I see these things and evaluate what the media is telling us about these topics. What I see in this movie is not very great – hint: there are spoilers so if you haven’t seen it, consider yourselves warned. Continue reading “5 Things I Learned about Sexuality from Watching One Movie”

Smoke Doesn’t Always Lead to Fire – Thank Heavens!

So, Mondays – we all love them. For a stay-at-home mom, Mondays are usually just like any other. Sometimes there is a partner that leaves to go back to their 9 to 5 and that makes it a little different. But ultimately, the Monday dread usually doesn’t exist for those who stay at home and care for the children.

There are moments I wonder why I am here doing this stay at home thing and this unschooling thing. But then there are moments like today. And yes, today just happens to be Monday. Today is a day when my skills as a respectful parent were tested to their fullest.

Now, I am comparatively new to this respectful parenting thing. I have not fine tuned all my skills as of yet. And there are some things that ingrained programming has made a struggle. And this is where we begin. Continue reading “Smoke Doesn’t Always Lead to Fire – Thank Heavens!”

Saving Money – It’s a thing!

Let’s start by saying, I love my husband. Sometimes I wonder how or why. But I do. He is a very intelligent man with a sense of humor matching my own. But here’s the thing. He grew up without. Not the normal without. But seriously without. And this has traumatized him somehow. To his credit, the pattern of survival he developed in those years has subsided in some aspects…except in the category of actually getting things fixed.

When it comes to actually getting things fixed, he is always looking for the cheapest shortcut because we obviously can’t afford anything else (an error in thinking that I can’t seem to get him passed). So, when something breaks or needs a repair, I am generally left with two options short of an argument and an Aspy meltdown.

Option One – He will fix it himself.

This option has a few distinct flaws I am super familiar with. My husband is good with his hands. He’s smart enough to do the research and find the information. This man can learn to fix just about anything. HOWEVER – this man also has an aversion to taking a project to completion. Half fixed and repaired things are my life. Continue reading “Saving Money – It’s a thing!”

Is English no longer valid here?

Sometimes I wonder why I am driven to write. It is excruciating sometimes – critics and the lay people can be so harsh. I am not sure why that is the case. I can be a turtle without a shell when it comes to my writing. Perhaps that’s why I never did much with my skill. Maybe I just don’t have thick enough skin to handle this. Then I wonder how much I have been bursting at the seams to just type something. To play on words. To create a riveting story.

Then I wonder if I have the skill, the talent and the time to develop. Oh – that’s the scary part. The skill is not necessarily something that can be completely taught. Some people have developed their skill and shared it with the world in the way of publishing their works. Most say the written word is dead. It all has to be digital – books will go to the wayside and all forms of communication will become something online. Continue reading “Is English no longer valid here?”

Things that make you go hmmmm…

I’ve been away for a while and I’ll explain it for you. My last post was super negative. I hate it when I get like that, but I have promised genuine reality. And the reality is, people by nature are not always happy. We all have our moments when it’s better we don’t deal with people or things or successfully adult. But I hope I made you think a little while on my high horse. Sorry, someone rubbed me wrong that day when I was running an errand in the morning. All that aside, I wonder why we only gravitate toward the positive.

I’ve read a lot of things recently and watched a lot of things recently. The eclipse was a very big deal. We sat on my bed eating popcorn and watched as many states received their two plus minutes of darkness. I’ve read more information on conscious parenting and children’s rights – yes, they have them and are entitled to exercise them regularly. Continue reading “Things that make you go hmmmm…”